Nous — FAQ
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Why This Matters
Trust is built through transparency. The FAQ addresses the questions users actually have but might not know to ask: Is the AI listening? Who sees my reflections? What exactly am I paying for? By being direct about how our features work — including what we don’t do — we build the trust that meaningful relationships require. The 3-way chat, Trust Score, and AI features all work differently than other apps, so clear answers reduce friction and help users engage authentically.Getting Started
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Most dating apps optimize for speed — swipe fast, match fast, message fast. Nous is designed around depth:
| Other Apps | Nous |
|---|---|
| Swipe based on photos | Heart/Star based on reflection energy |
| Match and figure it out | Daily self-discovery first |
| AI sends messages for you | AI suggest, you send |
| 1-on-1 chat | 3-way chat (you + match + AI) |
| Ghost and move on | Nudges to keep conversation alive |
| Random commitment | Intentional Official Flag |
The 3-Way Chat
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No. The AI only sees: conversation starters you specifically ask for, when you request AI help with ice breakers, and aggregate patterns (e.g., “this conversation seems to be going well”).We cannot listen to or read your actual messages. That would be creepy and against everything we stand for.
Privacy & Safety
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Only you — until you choose to share a Caring Moment with your match. Your daily reflections are private by default.
Pricing
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Because understanding yourself shouldn’t cost money. We believe the daily self-discovery loop is valuable on its own — even if you never match with anyone.
Technical
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The daily photo prompt is a core feature. You need camera access to take photos, and photo library access to upload existing photos.
Still Have Questions
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Use the feedback button in Settings
Office Hours
Thursdays 6-7 PM PST — Contact hello@petitnous.com to schedule
Key Concepts
| Term | Definition |
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| 3-way chat | Chat thread with you, your match, and an AI wingman — the AI observes and assists but never reads actual messages |
| Trust Score | Consistency metric built by completing daily self-discovery loops; private, unlocks Discovery Feed at threshold |
| Official Flag | Intentional commitment milestone where both partners explicitly choose to be “Official” |
| Caring Moments | Thoughtful gestures shared with matches — private by default, only shared with your explicit consent |
| Activities Discovery | Where you see and connect with potential matches — requires Trust Score threshold to access |